By Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD
After continuously examining and re-reading peaceful verbal exchange and the workbook, discovering lots of useful details in it and having the ability to placed it into perform, i do not think this publication gave me something new. First i used to be unaware this used to be only a publication and never a whole publication , until eventually I acquired it. it might probably have declared that during the outline yet i did not watch out! moment, the layout of utilizing blurbs from numerous different contributors, seminars and what no longer makes it very tricky to stick with alongside. I needed to cease and used to be unable to make all of it the best way via. I jsut needed to reread an analogous passages and 3 occasions simply to comprehend them. That being acknowledged i'm a faculty proficient, good learn person hence interpreting isn't a problem for me, yet this e-book was once. :-( I had very excessive expectancies for this booklet after interpreting NonViolent verbal exchange!
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Marshall: The first thing to do when we start to get angry or defensive is to recognize that we didn’t hear the other person. What breaks us out of these fights is our consciousness. If we hear anything but a gift in the other person’s message, we didn’t hear them. You have to notice when your NVC ears have fallen off. Anger is a wonderful clue; it’s like a wake-up call to a NVC-er. As soon as I get angry or defensive or hear an attack or demand, I know that I didn’t hear the other person. Instead of connecting to what’s going on in them, I’m up in my head judging that they’re wrong in some way.
Marshall addressing laughter among audience]: So you like seeing this rascal suffer! Girlfriend: I can’t stand it when you do this! ) Participant G: It’s more likely she would throw a lot of words at me and I would just get knocked down for the count. [Laughter] Marshall: The ten count! Okay, so you play her and come on with those words. ] NVC-er: So you really want to talk . . Girlfriend: Stop! Stop! Don’t bring this stuff up to me because I don’t like it. NVC-er: I’m feeling very discouraged because I .
Marshall enacts dialogue between judging puppet (partner) and NVC puppet (coach): NVC coach: Can you tell her back what she said? Partner: Yes, I understand how she feels. NVC coach: Could you just say what she feels? Partner: No, she’s right, she has every right to feel that way. It was terrible of me. I should never have made the promise if I knew that I may not have been able to do it. It was terrible of me. I just feel terribly guilty. NVC coach: Are you aware that when you hear what she said as a judgment of yourself, that it is a further violation of her?