By John Amodeo PhD
Winner of the 2014 Silver self sufficient writer ebook Award within the dating classification and winner of the Spirituality and perform Award as the most effective religious books of 2013!
The look for internal peace is frequently met with what appears like a conflicting course- the impossible to resist pull of affection and reference to others to which we're drawn.
Reconciling those opposites, John Amodeo exhibits how spirituality and colourful relationships are exact. He says that Buddha's thought of the foundation of discomfort is misunderstood. it isn't hope that reasons anguish; hope is the fireplace that springs from the elemental lifestyles strength. Drawing upon the technology of attachment concept, Amodeo illuminates how the foundation of our anguish is disconnection from ourselves and others, that is fueled by way of clinging to what does not serve us
In a conversational tone, Amodeo offers dating as sacred event. He teaches how you can welcome hope mindfully instead of suppress it and the way to beat worry of failure in referring to. He additionally discusses meditation as self-intimacy and preserving ourselves with loving-kindness. finally, he explores the function of group in non secular awakening and the difficulty of whom to trust--our guru or ourselves?
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Clinging to What Disconnects Us: The Root of Suffering 5. The Anatomy of Clinging 6. Making Friends with Clinging and Craving Part 2 Intimacy with Others 7. Spirituality Meets Attachment Theory: Is Suffering Caused by Attachment or Non-Attachment? 8. A Psychology of Liberation: Living with Longing 9. Teachers and Spiritual Communities: Trust Your Guru or Yourself ? Conclusion Self-Inquiry or Discussion Questions Notes Bibliography A Guide to Resources About the Author Dedication This book is dedicated to all those who feel deeply the anguish in today’s world and who feel moved to make some small contribution to improving the quality of life for all and protecting our precious planet.
2 In the arena of human relating, the spiritually inclined appear to suffer as much as everyone else. I have come to wonder whether there is something in traditional Eastern teachings about attachment and desire—or more likely, in how they’ve been interpreted—that inhibits our movement toward each other. I have come to realize that traditional meditation and spiritual practices are not enough if we want deeply loving relationships. What would it look like to expand our spiritual practice to include our life of feelings and longings so that our humanity becomes an integral part of our spirituality?
A self-comforting ideology cushions us from the agony and ecstasy of being alive. This disconnection from ourselves is the silent crisis of our time, which has ramifications that extend from the bedroom to the boardroom while also gravely infecting our political system and social policies. The foundation for a healthy society rests upon the mental and spiritual health of its citizenry. As we learn to embrace our authentic longings and feelings— and cultivate self-empathy and the corresponding compassion toward others—our society will gradually evolve in a direction that is more tolerant, humane, and enlightened.